Okay. It's been over ten years now since my Ex and I split up and I moved to California. Not quite a year after I moved, the Jerk had knocked up his little whore and was getting ready to marry her. (Marriage and children were something he insisted he never wanted, and told me the reason he was dumping me was because I did. Go figure.) Yeah, at first I was writing to him, and talking on the phone with him, and being "friends" with him, but I finally got a freakin' clue, and realized if I ever wanted to go on with my own life, I had to stop being friends with him. So, sent back his letters, and didn't give out my new phone number when I moved. It was over. For me, anyway. Now, every few years or so, he sends me an e-mail asking how I am. How's my life, how am I doing, would I like to correspond with him, what's my phone number, etc.
The first time he wrote, it was a bit creepy - for one thing I was wondering how the hell he found me online, and for another, he's married, so why is he trying to contact me? He went on to tell me all about his life, his wife, his two kids (because despite the fact that he never wanted to have kids, it turned out having just one kid wasn't enough!), his job, his testicular cancer (hee, sometimes karma is sweet!*), blah, blah, blah.
Why does he think I would care? I mean, sure I'm glad he didn't die from testicular cancer, but we're not together anymore, we haven't been together for ten years ! And besides he dumped me! Gah!
It took me a couple days to decide, but I finally deleted that first e-mail without answering. So, now he's e-mailed me again.
This time he didn't provide any sordid details of his life, only to say that things are "complicated". I admit I'm darn curious! Is he divorced? Is he back in therapy again? Is he totally bald now? Yeah, I'm curious, but no, I don't really care.
Why doesn't he just leave me alone? He dumped me, totally walked out on me, and took up with that whore, so why does he keep bugging me? Does he honestly think I'm going to be excited to hear from him? That I'll be thrilled? Well, I'm not. It's over, and I want it to just stay over. Gah! It's annoying and frustrating.
David, if you ever come across this as you wander through cyber space, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but please don't try to contact me anymore. You have your life, and I have mine. The End.
* Actually I kinda take that back. I really wouldn't wish anything bad to happen to him. Or anyone. Really.
The first time he wrote, it was a bit creepy - for one thing I was wondering how the hell he found me online, and for another, he's married, so why is he trying to contact me? He went on to tell me all about his life, his wife, his two kids (because despite the fact that he never wanted to have kids, it turned out having just one kid wasn't enough!), his job, his testicular cancer (hee, sometimes karma is sweet!*), blah, blah, blah.
Why does he think I would care? I mean, sure I'm glad he didn't die from testicular cancer, but we're not together anymore, we haven't been together for ten years ! And besides he dumped me! Gah!
It took me a couple days to decide, but I finally deleted that first e-mail without answering. So, now he's e-mailed me again.
This time he didn't provide any sordid details of his life, only to say that things are "complicated". I admit I'm darn curious! Is he divorced? Is he back in therapy again? Is he totally bald now? Yeah, I'm curious, but no, I don't really care.
Why doesn't he just leave me alone? He dumped me, totally walked out on me, and took up with that whore, so why does he keep bugging me? Does he honestly think I'm going to be excited to hear from him? That I'll be thrilled? Well, I'm not. It's over, and I want it to just stay over. Gah! It's annoying and frustrating.
David, if you ever come across this as you wander through cyber space, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but please don't try to contact me anymore. You have your life, and I have mine. The End.
* Actually I kinda take that back. I really wouldn't wish anything bad to happen to him. Or anyone. Really.
lmj (alias hez)